Thank you again LOTR!
As you needed sleep, I did find the solution through the wonderful world of Google.
I had to open a port through my firewall. Now I'm an Ultrapeer...and seem to have been the only one since. I am running VPN, and hope that does not cause anymore speed problems. More or less, things are DL faster, and UL are not affecting me so much.
With thanks, POR.