Changing ports didn't work and i tried the test earlier and it didn't work. And even if i turn the firewall off or add fw as an exception i still can't connect and i still see the firewall symbol in fw. I can use bearshare just fine but i can't get some stuff i can on fw. I'm just confused why bearshare can connect but not fw or really any other p2p program i've tried.

Check which port BS's using & then try that one for FW (just don't have the 2 open at the same time!)

If BS works best, you could try the version mentioned here & see if there's any difference in search results (needs the BearStart utility): BearShare has been sabotaged.