I have read all the faq's and help pages I could find but even on your help page you'll find:

3. Changing the default download waiting time

- find the file called "phex.cfg" somewhere on your system
- find the entry called "mDownloadRetryWait="
- enter the wainting time in miliseconds(!) (e.g. 10000 equals 10 seconds)
- save the changes and restart Phex

but you don't say what to change it to or why to change it.

Is there a good source of terms used in p2p that are not to technical?

Thanks,
Ed