The "flame" prevents you both from directly connection to each other. But the PUSH should work out fine for you, not sure yet why it fails... I think I remember someone had a similar problem a few months ago with private networks...

Hacking a few lines of code would likely be the fastest way for you to get a solution, but its also the more difficult approach, depending on your Java knowledge... basically I would tell you how you get ride of the flame.

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