The link below will take you to BearShare Lite try it and see if it is any better. It is Spyware free. The second link is a comparison I recently did.
There is a PM feature in the forum but you would still probably have to wait we are volunteers we do not work for LW and most of us are helping several people at the same time when we are on line.
http://www.bearshare.com/lite/ http://www.gnutellaforums.com/showth...threadid=45289