Thanks for the advice guys (gals) it's great.

So I can choose my iTunes as the download folder (I'll try to figure that out) which sounds appealing as I really like iTunes.

or.....
LOTR--do you have any other suggestions for management? Like I said I just lost a lot of music and can't figure out how that happened.

So back to my original question--how do I stop my Library from automatically sorting.

Damn Libraries with a mind of their own