lynnjoe,
Well, at least the firewall icon's gone . I can't find anything about your modem using UPnP either. It's not even in the manual.

Try shutting LW down then restarting it. Try clicking on file & disconnect, then connect from there again. What are your details (just put in everything, even what you've already told me)

OS
LW & Java version (help > about LW & you'll see)
Firewalls used
Modem/router brand & model
ISP
Where you connect from (home, work etc)
Connection type (DSL etc)
Do you share connection with other computers
Is this your first try with LW