You say that you have tried everything......does this include deleting the LW preference folder as described in Point #2 & 3 in Fixes for Limewire:
http://www.gnutellaforums.com/showth...threadid=36420
As well as configuring your firewall as described in (connection problems -click first):
http://www.gnutellaforums.com/showthread.php?t=51361
For users of any Norton program it might also be necessary to delete all previous exceptions made for LW to get the update effective for the new one....