i fixed it, with help of LOTR, kinds weird though, i am not a computer geek so i am not going to try and make since of it, but i ended up port forwarding on my router to fix it. i thought if i disconnected my router and connected directly to my isp's modem that it wouldn't matter. oh well i am happy now. by the way this link is awesome and makes it so easy for anyonw wanting to port forward. http://www.portforward.com/english/r...outerindex.htm