by the way i found out my antivirus zonealarm thingy isn't the problem 
1. what OS version? (eg: Windows 98, XP,OSX, Vista)
XP home
2. What firewalls you have ?
zonealarm
3. How much ram ?
i think its 512 i don't know
4. Hard Disk space available ?
i'm not sure
5. Connection type (eg: dialup, broadband, cable, etc.) ?
broadband
6. Modem & router brand name & model numbers ?
Netgear DG834G
7. Where are you trying to connect from (house, appartment complex, school, student accomodation, work, etc.) ?
house
8. What version,LimeWire & Java,Go to L/W's Help/About L/W, THIS show both LW & Java version.?
the 4.12.6 (free one) LW and for java its environement 5 update 11
9. Who is your ISP provider (Internet Service Provider) ? AOL
10. Do this test click here:
http://www3.limewire.com:6346/ should say 'Your test worked!. What happens ?
it says your test worked!
11. Are you sharing the connection with other computers or p2p sharing programs? If yes, please give details of set up.
no i don't think so
12. Is this a your 1st try at LW or is this a new problem with an experienced user.?
a new problem, i've had LW for about 1 or 2 years, and this happened a few weeks ago (the status stayed at connecting and firewall in front of globe but i'm not sure if it was there before)
13. Do you see a brick wall in front of the blue world icon at the bottom of LW's interface ?
yup
14. Have you given full permisions for LimeWire to pass through your Firewall ?
yeah, on zonealarm i let LW have ticks on everything (internet etc.) and i tried switching off zonealarm but it still has wall 
15. XP users, Please state XP firewall on or off.?
i think its off....how can i check? and by the way i tried the port forwarding thingy for my router and it doesn't seem to work! unless i've done something wrong...i followed all the instructions on that page! and is the start and finishing port for LW 6346? because thats what i put (don't know if its right ) :S oh ye! one more thing, when i open LW a pop-up comes up saying couldn't open AUX magnet or something like that..i've had that since i downloaded this version, is it important?
thanks for helping me!!