hey moak !
i solved the problem regarding bearshare not ponging me back.....basically i was using 2 separate threads ..on for the handshake and the other for the ping ...and that was probably the dumbest thing i did in my life....maybe i was listening to much rock....:-O or maybe my thinking was getting disturbed by the
relentless....rebooting and the exception throwing on win9x machine....gawd...i wish i could do it in Linux...!

Anyways as advised by his excellency moak starting work on the server thread.....as u might have guessed...using a synchronous. architecture...with blocking threads...MFC and the win32 api.!

1 Gb of thanks :-) and hopefully no more dumb messages from me