Hi Cslack27
First of all, I will apologise for the very simple questions I am about to ask you, as you are an experienced person, but I am trying to build up a picture of your particular problem.
1) You say that you have UPnP enabled on your modem/router, have you also enabled UPnP on Limewire?
2) Are you the administrator for your modem/router, i.e. you cam make configuration changes without any problems?
3) Have you tried to "port-forward" your modem/router?
4) Are you connected to your modem/router by a patch cable or wirelessly?
5) Do you use any other protective applications apart from the Windows Firewall and AVG Free?
6) Have you initiated UPnP and IGDC (Internet Gateway Device Control Client) within your WinXP Pro?
Once you have answered these questions I may be able to suggest a few things.
UK Bob
PS. Some people have run into difficulty using Java 1.6.x but found that Java 1.5.0_11 works as expected.
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