Thanks for your reply/help....

Only using vista fire wall.....i had already set up static ip address and actually used the links you provided for both ip add and manual port forward...

I read through them again and was sure everthing was ok so decided to have a look at the gnutella file you advised me of.. Was about to to atempt to remove it and thought " hold on, he mentioned the newer version, 5 " ??.....uninstalled the old found and installed the new version and guess what.... yep all workin!! cheers... I spent hours trying to sought this out,, avoiding forums to try and work it out myself to no evail, one post and it's soughted... I knew it would be something simple, it always is....
thanks arron