First problem I see is AOL. AOL is not p2p sharing friendly. You might find connection problems are over certain times of day. You will probably also find limited speeds due to their p2p filtering. It's my guess connection might be easier during off-peak hours of the day. Unfortunately this may not suit your timetable.

Are you port forwarding your Netgear? If you did, I'd suggest you choose a high port number between 49152 - 65535. This is usually the last range that ISP's shape for p2p sharing. Not to say they are not using 'other' techniques such as software that simply detects LW when it's connecting.

Check this thread: If LW 4 Will Not Connect (click on the blue link) & replace your gnutella.net file.