You want to connect to a friend and download from him, am I right?

Try it with a static IP, give your host a name instead of an IP:

http://www.no-ip.com/

The free offer is enough!!!

Generally connecting to a specific host within Gnutella is very tricky I managed it one time but wasn´t able to download from this host!

Perhaps you should set up a ftp server!

Morgwen