i did portforwading and i removed java and then installed the version that birdy recommended. i dont know wat the deal is i still cant connect.
could it be my internet provider that is preventing me from connecting to the l/w network?

Could be. Take a look at this post:

http://www.gnutellaforums.com/connec...ease-help.html

You could try calling your ISP and asking whether they limit p2p usage. :rolleyes_2:

Dan