I assume iTunes is your default media player, and whilst I have no experience with Bearshare and cannot understand why closing iTunes would close Bearshare, I suggest you make a different player your default player. I do not know if Bearshare has it's own media player, but if it does, possibly you should try using that.

I hope this helps a bit, but as I said, I am not an expert on Bearshare.

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